7 Actions It’s Better To Avoid When You Fight With Loved Ones
It is very easy to hurt a person with a word or an action during a fight. The resentment can last much longer after the fight is over, ruining the relationship. We chose 7 things you should never do while fighting with your loved ones.
What to avoid fighting in a relationship
1. Do not include other family members in your fights
Your fight concerns only you and no one else. By drawing your parents into the conflict, you risk turning the regular fallout into a full-blown family disaster.
Even if harmony returns to your relationship, the other family members will probably remember everything and use it against you or your partner when there is an opportunity.
2. Avoid violence
While fighting, people tend to show the worst sides of their character. Some, trying to prove themselves right, resort to violence.
Do not allow yourself or your partner to use violence, no matter how angry you may be with each other. The physical pain caused by a loved one will kill all the feelings that once held you.
3. Don’t mix everything up
If the main cause of the fight is a bunch of dirty dishes, leave it at that. Do not remind your partner of all his past mistakes – this is a way to turn a minor domestic problem into a major ugly conflict.
Also, your partner may have a logical question: Do I need to continue a relationship where there are so many demands?
4. Never talk about a divorce
When you say “Let’s get a divorce” during a fight, it can become the biggest insult of all time. These words can really hurt your partner’s feelings. And the more you say them, the faster the divorce will happen. If you love yourself, never talk about separation.
5. Never leave the house in the middle of a fight
Just leaving the house during a fight will only show how uncomfortable you feel under the same roof as your partner. Slamming doors, running into the dark, leaving the conflict unresolved will all make your partner think twice about your level of maturity.
It’s much better to wait until he calms down and then discuss everything like adults.
6. Do not go to bed separately
By sleeping separately, you show that you are not ready to reconcile. The daily routine, such as going to sleep together, will relax the atmosphere and resolve the conflict quickly.
They may end up lying on their backs at first, but in the morning they’ll wake up in each other’s arms with no hint of the fight the night before.
7. Never fight in public.
If you allow you and your partner to fight in a public place, you may not even respect each other. Don’t take skeletons out of your closet in public. It is much better to talk about your problems at home.
Based on materials: CheetSheetRelationship